I know my Daughter

I know my daughter.…I held her for hours, but I never saw her breathe, I never saw her move, she never crawled, took her first steps, had a first day in kindergarten, graduated from college or got married. I didn’t just lose a baby, I lost all my hopes and dreams and memories that I would never have for a child that I loved. However, just because I did not get to experience any of these things doesn’t mean I don’t know a lot about my daughter; not as much as I want to, but enough in this lifetime until I get to spend eternity with her. Everything I know about her I found in the Bible, and some of the following text is adapted from Safe in the Arms of God, by John MacArthur.


I know that she was a person who was conceived in the heart and mind of God from the beginning of time: Psalm 139:13-15 For you created my inmost being, you knit me together in my mother’s womb and I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Your works are wonderful, I know that full well. My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place, when I was woven together in the depths of the earth.

Her destiny was ordained by God: Psalm 139:16 Your eyes saw my unformed body. All the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be.

I know where she is—she is in Heaven. One of the greatest comforts of a parent is to know where your child is: 2 Samuel 12:21, when David’s infant son was dying, His attendants asked him, “Why are you acting this way? While the child was alive, you fasted and wept, but now that the child is dead, you get up and eat!” David replied, “While the child was still alive, I fasted and wept. I thought, ‘Who knows, the Lord may be gracious to me and let the child live.’ But now that he is dead, why should I fast? Can I bring him back again? He will not return to me, but I will go to him.” Jesus confirmed David’s belief that he would see his infant son again in Heaven. Jesus loves children!  In Matthew 19:14, when He was teaching in Judea, a group of children ran up to him, probably interrupted him as he was speaking to other adults. Instead of sending them away like his disciples wanted him to do, he said: “Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them for the kingdom of Heaven belongs to such as these” Also in Matthew 18:3 “I tell you the truth, unless you change and become like little children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven. Therefore, whoever humbles himself like this child is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven.” Matthew 18:14 in the same way, your Father in Heaven is not willing that any of these little ones be lost. John Newton, a slave trader who eventually gave his life over to Christ, wrote a song called Amazing Grace…how sweet the sound that saved a wretch like me…..He had a dear friend who lost a baby. In his memoirs, this is the letter he wrote to the grieving family: “I hope you are both well reconciled with the death of your child. I can’t be sorry for the death of infants, how many storms do they escape? Nor can I doubt in my private judgment that they are included in the election of grace.” 

I know what she might be experiencing:  Eternal pleasures—Psalm 16:11 You have made known to me the path of life; you will fill me with joy in your presence with eternal pleasures at your right hand. Perfection—1 John 3:2 Dear friends, now we are children of God and what we will be has not yet been made known. But we know that when he appears, we shall be like him, for we shall see him as he is. Joy and No Sorrow—Isaiah 35:10 …and those the Lord has rescued will return. They will enter Zion with singing; everlasting joy will crown their heads. Gladness and joy will overtake them, and sorrow and sighing will flee away. She is there now – (there is no waiting period) 2 Corinthians 5:8 We are confident, I say, and willing rather to be absent from the body, is to be present with the Lord. John MacArthur writes on page 115-116, “[She] will never have a selfish desire, never utter a useless word, never perform an unkind deed, never think a sinful thought. [She] is completely liberated from any temptation to sin and is able to do all that is absolutely righteous and holy. [She] will not know suffering, sorrow or pain. [She] is free from persecution, division, disunity, hate, disagreements and disappointments. [She] will not weep because there is nothing to make [her] sad. [She] will know a life of unimaginable blessing – and only blessing- for all eternity.”

I will recognize her: Matthew 17 is about the Transfiguration. Jesus’s disciples, Peter and John, went with Jesus on the top of a mountain and saw Moses and Elijah appear before them. They had been dead for centuries, yet the disciples instantly recognized them. She is NOT an angel. So many people believe this and say “you have an angel in Heaven”. It sounds so nice, but it is not the truth according to the Bible.  1 Corinthians 6:3 Do you not know that we will judge angels?  Hebrews 1:14 Are not all angels ministering spirits sent to serve those who will inherit salvation?  Revelation 7:9-10 After this I looked and there before me was a great multitude that no one could count, from every nation, tribe, people and language, standing before the throne and in front of the Lamb. They were wearing white robes and were holding palm branches in their hands. And they cried out in a loud voice: Salvation belongs to our God, who sits on the throne, and to the Lamb.”  She will NOT be a baby in Heaven. She is conformed to the image of God’s son (Romans 8:29) John MacArthur writes on page 118-119: The largest number of this group may very well be the unborn and the young children saved through the ages by God’s sovereign grace. They will be from every nation, tongue, tribe, and people. They are all capable of praising and worshiping God. They must possess, therefore, enough maturity to voice this praise and to understand the significance of their praise. At no point do we read in Scripture that there are those in Heaven who are incapable of worship, incapable of voicing praise or incapable of falling prostrate in worship before the throne of God.

I know my daughter. You can also know your baby. Dive into the Scripture to learn about him or her, what they may doing, or what they are experiencing. Test what you have heard others say with God’s word. If you are new to the Bible, I encourage you to read, Safe in the Arms of God, by John MacArthur. It walks you through many questions with Scriptural truth about the death of infants; then you will know where to look in the Bible for answers. 

♥ Jaimie Crump, M.E.N.D. —Houston Mommy to Abigail Grace

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